It’s time to tackle some of the most common myths and pre-conceived notions regarding midlife today.
Here are some of the most common erroneous beliefs held around the notion of what midlife is or what it should look like.
Myth #1: Midlife is a “crisis.”
Truth: Midlife does not have to be a crisis. In fact, it can be a “calling.” Check out one of my favorite quotes about midlife from Brene Brown: “Midlife is an unraveling. Midlife is when the universe gently places her hands upon your shoulders, pulls you close, and whispers in your ear: I’m not screwing around.” We may perceive it as a crisis for many reasons. We may believe that our best years are behind us, or that the older we get the less we have to offer, or that midlife is supposed to be about slowing down and preparing for retirement. It doesn’t have to be this way, though. Midlife can be an exciting time of awakening, reinvention, and self-discovery. It’s all in how we choose to look at it.
Myth #2: It’s all downhill from here so I might as well “let myself go.”
Truth: For women midlife can be especially tough. Like the teen years, midlife can be fraught with physical changes, emotional ups and downs, and a feeling of lack of control over what’s happening on an emotional and physical level. We can become discouraged and begin to feel like “what’s the point in trying.” The truth is, there’s nothing wrong with letting yourself go, your old self that is, and becoming more your true self than ever before! If we allow it, midlife can usher in new levels of self-love and acceptance and changing perceptions of what real beauty is. We can become more confident and at home in ourselves than ever before!
Myth: It’s too late to embark on something new.
Truth: My dad has cancer. When he found out he had cancer he decided then that it was too late to do many of the things that he was wanting to do. So, he didn’t. And he still hasn’t. And that was over two years ago! But because he made up his mind that he was out of time and that it was too late to embark on anything new, that has become his reality. Look, the truth is that it’s only too late when you decide it’s too late. None of us can actually know what the future holds or even what tomorrow may bring. All we have is today!
So, my question to you is…what are you going to do with today? How will you start seeing the opportunity instead of the overwhelm, the calling instead of the crisis, and letting the old self go to make room for your best self?
The journey through midlife looks different for everyone but you don’t have to do it alone. As an RN and Certified Health and Mindful Wellness Coach I can support you in prioritizing and optimizing your wellness so that you can live a fulfilled and healthy life through midlife and beyond! PS: I’m currently accepting clients into my invitation only Wellness Academy and Wellness University programs. If you are interested in learning more, then let’s set up a time to connect. Schedule a 50-minute one-on-one connection call HERE.